One time I was out walking my 2 dogs with one of my girlfriends. Some guy drove by and cat called us. We were 13.
One evening I was waiting in line to get into a concert venue with a group of friends. I was eating an ice cream cone. Some dude next to me was staring at me with this look of hunger, and then says “Nice…..whatcha got there?”.
One time I was walking down the street with a friend when a man grabbed my hand and pulled me to him. My friend grabbed my arm and kept us walking the other way talking me out of causing damage to the man.
One time when I was a freshman in college I was with a group of friends drinking in their dorm room. Two mutual friends of someone who lived in the dorm were there. They were high school seniors. One seemed cool, so we chatted. It was one of the first times I’d ever been drunk. He decided to tickle me, so of course I was laughing. I grabbed his arms to stop him, and he decided to grab my boobs. I was too embarrassed to say anything.
One time some guys who lived in the dorm below me had a party. I was chatting with one of the guys when he learned I was a musician. He immediately said “I always wanted a musician for a girlfriend.” Before the night was over, he asked me out. I told him I wasn’t interested. He wouldn’t leave me alone, would show up at my dorm, would call and text me. I wasn’t interested, but that wasn’t good enough for him. He would knock on my door and demand to talk to me. My roommates would lie and say I was out. Finally, I went on one date with him to get him to leave me alone, because I showed him how bored, uninterested and unconnected we were. Still nothing. So I told him I got back together with my ex. He didn’t believe me, so I asked my ex, who was still my friend, to drive up to hang out with me and stage being back together with him to get the guy to leave me alone. He then proceeded to insult me, call me a bitch among many other horrible things, and block me on facebook.
One time a coworker who was my parents age told me as a woman I didn’t deserve the education I had. That it was wrong that I had a degree. He was outwardly rude to me. Saved me in his phone as “Stupid Bitch”. Then when I lost my patience as was rude to him, he would say things about me having PMS.
One time a different coworker started buying me gifts after he learned that I started taking up jogging to blow off some steam. He was a professional runner, so he wanted to be supportive and offer some coaching. At first it seemed kind and harmless, but then the gifts kept coming and coming. Then he started demanding that he takes me to all these different practices and races, started forcing his own running schedule on me, and then explicitly made me promise him that I’d run a particular marathon with him. He would say things like “I’ll be thinking of you” when he would run a track I’d done with him, or “I fantasize about crossing the finish line with you next to me”, or, when I told him I was going to skip a run some evening, he’d say “you’re going nowhere in life”, “you’ll never amount to anything”. When I confronted him and told him that he had be so incredibly generous, however I cannot accept anymore gifts and I needed to have my own running schedule, he exploded saying things like “you’re looking at me like I’m a sexual predator. You’re treating me like garbage.” Then retaliated against me at work, calling me names behind my back with other employees and gossiped about what a horrible person I am.
One time I was driving, it was 5am so it was still dark outside. I was at a stop light when I glance over at the truck next to me. The man was masturbating (or perhaps just doing the motion pretending to, not sure) while looking at me. When the light turned green, he got behind my car and started following me. I had to take a bunch of spontaneous turns before I shook him off.
One time I was at the airport when an older man started talking to me about the gate being changed and such. Then out of nowhere he looks me up and down and calls me gorgeous, says I have a great figure, and starts asking my age and marital status. He introduced me to his daughter, who was my age, and he just gushed about me to her. She rolled her eyes at me, which I don’t blame her for. Her dad has clearly done this before.
One time I was hanging out with my friend. We were having a nice evening, playing our musical instruments and talking about life. He was 18 and I was 23. He asked me if I wanted to have sex, which, I was glad he asked me, but my answer was no. But then for the rest of the evening, he kept bringing it up as something we should do. My answer remained as no. This came up again on a different day, only he became frustrated and asked me why I didn’t want to, which, I appreciate him trying to talk it out, but, at that point I just wanted him to take no for an answer.
One day my work place had roofers working on the roof. Every time I, or any female employee, walked out the building, the roofers would cat call, whistle at us, call us “Mami”, blow kisses, etc. I called the roofing company and the project manager for that job came to speak with me. He said that his men don’t do such things, that we must be misinterpreting them. He said they are messing around with each other, that we must be overhearing them speaking with each other. So I said “oh, so they address each other with “Hey Mami! Whats up baby girl?”. The man, now morbidly embarrassed, fumbled with his words, and became frustrated with me. He became defensive but had no argument, so he scoffed and fidgeted while he finally said he would call his boss, the business owner, to let him know of the situation. The owner came to my establishment to personally apologize, and he fired the culprits involved.
These are just a few stories out of an entire life time of encounters of unsolicited sexual attention.